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Why Being a Little Badass Can be Blissful

Hitting the (deep!) water in Hawaii

I can remember a time in my life when fear about what others would think of me would keep me from expressing my opinion or standing up for myself, even in situations where I should have been putting up a serious fight for what I believed was right.  I never had any problem coming out swinging in defense of others, but when it came to defending myself, that was another story.  The same fears held me back when it came to busting out of my comfort zone or breaking rules (even the ones that just ask to be broken).

A few years ago, I finally drew a line and decided to set free and embrace my inner-badass. I must tell you, she’s pretty freaking cool.  What I’ve come to know is that when you say what’s on your mind, take risks, and express what you desire in a cool, clear, respectful way, you can create powerful change in your life, get more of what you want, and transform potentially negative encounters into positive experiences.

When something doesn’t feel right, when you’re not being treated with respect and kindness, or when someone does something that you feel is completely out of line, don’t be afraid to release your inner-badass and tell it like you see it (with grace, of course).  You’ll be doing yourself a huge favor.  And, by offering your authentic self and speaking your truth, you’re doing a service for others involved as well.  The response is often surprisingly positive and empowering.

I’ve also learned through experience that rocking a bit of moxie when it comes to breaking rules or stepping outside of your safe zone can also bring on amazing experiences that may have otherwise been missed.  When you’re willing to be a bit of a risk-taker and brave feeling out of your element, it can spark huge growth and lead to exhilarating experiences you’ll never forget.

Until my mid-twenties, I was terrified of swimming in the ocean.  Then, on a trip to Mexico, I was so overwhelmed by how beautiful the water was that I dedicated myself to breaking free of that life-long fear and experiencing what it was like to be a part of that amazing beauty.  I started slowly, with someone holding on to me as I went in, but it wasn’t long before I was swimming like a fish.  Releasing that fear opened up an awesome new world for me. Today, I’m super passionate about the ocean and its conservation.  I’ve learned to surf, dive, and have even been swimming with sharks (yup… in the cage – seriously badass).

So, the next time you’re tempted to shy away from speaking what’s on your mind or trying something that would usually have you running the other way, re-think the opportunity and the good things that might be waiting for you. Know that chances for fantastic breakthroughs can sometimes come disguised as uncomfortable situations.

The freedom that comes from trying something new, releasing the fear of what others might think, and even breaking the rules now and then is fiercely amazing.  When you believe in yourself, and treat yourself like the remarkable, capable person you are, you’ll put yourself in a place to excel and be of the highest possible service to yourself and to the world.  Spread your wings, say it like you mean it, and don’t be afraid to shine.  Open doors are waiting.

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Kristi Ling Spencer

Kristi Ling is a happiness strategist, internationally known life and business coach, bestselling author, and inspirational speaker who works with individuals and organizations on building a firm foundation for lasting happiness and success. She has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Oprah Daily, Woman’s Day, Oxygen, Entrepreneur, Mashable, Reader’s Digest, and Women’s Health. Her popular TEDx Talk on The Power of Re-Thinking Happiness has been shared across social media, and she has appeared as a keynote speaker for major companies and events. Her bestselling book, Operation Happiness – The 3-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss was chosen by Success Magazine as one of the best books to make you successful. It’s available now wherever books and audiobooks are sold.

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