Much of the way we experience our day comes from what we expect of it. Expect amazing things today and it will likely be. Expect a bad day and that’s pretty much what you’ll get. It’s pretty simple.
There are so many factors that support this concept, both scientific and metaphysical. Part of what plays into it is what’s known as Frequency Illusion. Frequency Illusion is a phenomenon that occurs when we notice something for the first time (such as a beautiful object that brightens our spirits), and then our mind continues to see more of the same. Kind of like when someone points out a red convertible to you, and then you start seeing red convertibles all over the place. This is a natural process of our mind that we can use to our advantage.
So, basically, when we’re expecting amazing things and noticing them on purpose, we’ll see and experience more and more of the same. As Rumi said, “What you seek is seeking you.” This is also one of the concepts behind the Law of Attraction.
A while back, I took a self-care day off to go paddleboarding in Malibu. The water was gorgeous, the sun was shining, and a pod of dolphins swam by. I’d looked forward to this for days.
I can tell you for sure that one thing that helped make it so great was that I expected it to be! In the days leading it up to going, I was making statements (affirmations, really) like, “I’m going paddleboarding on Thursday. There will be dolphins and sea lions. It’s going to be amazing!”
I grew up with a major fear of the ocean. I wouldn’t even go in past my knees. For a Southern California girl, you can imagine this might be a bit of an issue. Years ago, I finally set my mind to overcoming the fear, and now I’m passionate about water sports. I snorkel, free dive, surf, and swim. Anywhere in or near the ocean is a very happy place for me! But, to be honest, there’s still a sneaky little voice inside me that will creep in and stir up anxiety when I’m faced with going into the deep, open ocean…
Before my day off for paddleboarding in Malibu, that annoying little voice was tempting me to make statements like, “I’m a little nervous I might fall in,” or “Going that far from the shore can be scary.” I guarantee if that were the mindset I’d been in prior to hitting the water, it would have drastically changed my experience. But, I chose to ignore those negative, limiting thoughts and instead chose to expect a fantastic experience. And it was.
Expectations for the day usually begin in the morning. When you wake up, be conscious about the statements you’re making and the thoughts you’re choosing about the day ahead. If you’re thinking, “That marketing meeting this afternoon is going to suck big time,” you’re not only setting yourself up for a negative experience, you’re also putting out low vibrations that affect other aspects of life too.
Changing your outlook and expectations can literally change what you experience. And, aligning your expectations with your positive intentions gives you that much more momentum.
This isn’t to say that everything will always turn out the way we expect it to. That would be unrealistic…and boring! It’s also not to say that having powerful, positive expectations will never lead to disappointment. That happens sometimes, and there are always lessons to be received there. This is just to say that our expectations play a huge role in shaping the way we live – the richness, the light, the growth, and the joy.
So, when it comes to creating a fantastic life, be sure to add setting high-quality, positive expectations to your happiness toolbox. Expect to get that job. Expect to see a rainbow. Expect to meet your soulmate. Expect to pass that test…It’s a powerful thing to expect the things we desire. To Expect fantastic experiences. Expect an amazing, delicious, joyful life. Look for the magic. The light to the path. Notice the beauty, the good, the wins, and the enchantment all around you, and you’ll start to notice more and more of the great stuff coming your way.
Much love,
~ Kristi
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