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A Tip for When You Feel Invisible

We can all feel a bit invisible sometimes. As humans, some of our core desires are to feel seen and heard. With all I do, it may be hard to believe that sometimes I feel invisible. But I do now and then. Sometimes we just don’t feel seen or like we’re making a difference (no matter how untrue that may be), and that can be disheartening.

Funny, though, how we receive little reminders from the Universe that everything is okay. That we do matter. Yesterday, that came in the form of a letter from a reader of my book Operation Happiness telling me that listening to the audio version has made a difference for her.

Her note caught me on an “off” day. I was feeling a little discouraged and frustrated after a few setbacks. Her note came at a perfect time and meant a great deal to me. Sometimes we just need to be reminded that we’re seen and what we do makes a difference, right? (Of course, my new puppy Mai Tai reminds me of this every meal time lol – lots of pics of her on Instagram, BTW).

Affirmations for Feeling Seen

I admit, while I believe in the power of affirmations, I don’t use them as often as I should. But, I do keep a few favorites in my happiness toolbox for when they’re needed. And, one that always seems to help when I’m feeling invisible is:

“I am seen. I am heard. I am loved.”

It’s simple, but writing this down on a sticky note and putting somewhere visible, as well as closing my eyes and repeating it to myself several times seems to be an instant mood lifter. Plus, it’s the truth. Even when we don’t feel seen, heard, or loved — we are and sometimes we just need to be reminded (even if we are reminding ourselves).

Try closing your eyes and repeating this affirmation to yourself a few times (bonus – smile while you’re doing it to amp up the effectiveness).

“I am seen. I am heard. I am loved.”

Feels pretty good, right?


Let me know your thoughts in the comments below.

Love and gratitude,



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Kristi Ling is a happiness strategist, internationally known life and business coach, bestselling author, and inspirational speaker who works with individuals and organizations on building a firm foundation for lasting happiness and success. She has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Woman’s Day, Oxygen, Entrepreneur, Mashable, Reader’s Digest, and Women’s Health. Her popular TEDx Talk on The Power of Re-Thinking Happiness has been shared across social media, and she has appeared as a keynote speaker for major companies and events. Her bestselling book, Operation Happiness – The 3-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss was chosen by Success Magazine as one of the best books to make you successful. It’s available now wherever books and audiobooks are sold.