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The Power of Words to Change Our Life (+a gift!)

Did you know you can transform your life simply by re-shaping the words you use? Every single thing we say carries energy, re-enforces our thoughts, and affects the way we feel. It even affects our brain chemistry and nervous system. Basically, everything we say is an affirmation and carries power, and our bodies are listening. Words are a powerful tool when used to our advantage. Thinking of it this way can really motivate us to re-think the words we’re choosing in our life and make positive shifts.

Language can shape our thoughts, beliefs, relationships (anyone else’s Love Language Words of Affirmation?), feelings, our emotional wellbeing, and ultimately, the way we experience our life. When we really get this and put it into practice, we can turn managing our word choices into a superpower to elevate our life in the most amazing ways! (Look for a free download at the end of this post to help you get started using words to level-up your life).

The other day, for whatever reason, I woke up feeling like total crap. I was feeling down, grouchy, and just “off.” We all have days like this now and then, but having the tools to shift them can make a major difference. I decided to use the power of words and try to speak myself out of the funk. I got out of bed and challenged myself to make my next several statements positive ones about the day. “The sun is peeking out!” “I feel good this morning.” “I’m getting organized and ready for a good day.” “I’m grateful to have fresh flowers in the house.” Within minutes I felt so much better! My entire energy had changed and instead of continuing into my day swimming into a pool of blah and negativity, I’d created a positive shift and signaled my brain to go along for the ride!

I’ve witnessed firsthand the transformative power of positive language, in my own life, in my coaching work, and in the lives of others. I even did a podcast episode that covers how words impact our life. Catch it here (there are some great word swap examples in this episode!).

Multiple studies have shown that the words we use can affect our stress levels, immune system, and even our physical health. When we replace unhelpful words, complaining, and negative self-talk with affirming words, we can reduce stress, create more peace, and create a better outlook on life. We can also use the power of words to help us attract incredible people, opportunities, and experiences like never before.

In addition to choosing different words to speak, we can also use words to get us focused on what we want to attract and create in our lives. To help you get started on this, I’ve included a free downloadable inspiration sheet below to help you go deep and discover the words that represent what you’d like to experience more of in your life. If you’d like, you can use this tool to help you choose a word of the year (or word of the day, month…whatever works for you). Having your own personal word of the year is a great way to stay focused on your true desires and top priorities. (Side note: this inspiration sheet is just one example of the library of super impactful content you’ll find within The Joy School, my exclusive coaching membership for next-leveling your life – it’s a game-changer!).

I hope this has inspired you to start practicing the superpower of using words to shape your life. The results you can create are truly amazing.

Print the Key Focus Words sheet below to help you start focusing on words that represent your desires and intentions. You can do this quick exercise any time to help you get focused, and to get clear on what your current priorities really are. It’s powerful and fun! I also encourage you to grab a piece of paper and write a list of 5 negative words you catch yourself using sometimes and which more positive words you can swap them out for. So good!

Let’s go 2024! Let’s make it a great year together. xo

Click here to download your free Key Focus Words sheet

4 Ways to Protect Your Energy and Peace This Holiday Season

The holiday season is a time of joy, friends, family, and simple pleasures. And, it can also be a time of overwhelm, stress, triggers, and never-ending to-do lists for many. It’s a time to step up prioritizing protection of our energy and peace. 

The great news is that we have so much power over how we create and experience the season if we set our intentions and boundaries in advance and stick to them (that’s the hard part, but worth it!). To get us all started, here are four of my favorite shifts to create more joy, feel great, and protect personal energy and peace during the holidays and beyond.


1. Prioritize your rest and self-care with next-level intention and purpose.

We should always be doing this if we’re on a path of creating our best life, but the holidays can throw our regular habits and routines way off track. Create a clear plan for yourself this season on what you want it to look like and how you want to feel, and then plan your days around those things. 

Say no to obligations and events that are not an absolute yes in your soul (resist temptation to say yes to every invite and over-schedule yourself). Don’t apologize for taking time to rest, relax, and recharge. If your soul is tired, you can’t shine or be the best version of you. You and the people you love deserve the version of you. Prioritizing your needs is the best way to show up as that person who is full of great energy, love, and joy. 


2. Choose a “small talk only” approach with difficult people + Examine your triggers.

One strategy for responding in ways that bring more peace and calm is to set an intention ahead of time to stick to small talk at work events, parties, or family gatherings where you know you may be triggered, or where you know negative or toxic people may be. This keeps things light and helps reduce the chance of conflict. Additionally, seek out more time at these gatherings with people you truly enjoy. This is not only a way to avoid conflict, but have more fun too!

Recently, I posted a quote on Instagram that really resonated…“The way you choose to respond to difficult people and situations plays an important role in determining the quality of your life.” Woah. Such power in that thought! 

It’s amazing news, actually, because when we take personal responsibility for the way we respond to people and situations, we remain in complete control and can be the conductor of calm and peace in most any situation. Use the mantra, “I choose peace,” if tempted to react harshly when you feel triggered. 

And, try taking a quiet look at exactly what made you feel triggered, because sometimes it’s an opportunity to realize that those feelings are actually your stuff, and not the other person at all. We all have our “stuff.” This can be both eye-opening and very positive, because taking responsibility for your triggers is a healing superpower that can be especially helpful during the holiday season. It truly can help bring you more peace, along with more compassion for yourself and room to grow.


3. Try choosing low alcohol cocktails or fancy mocktails. 

For people who do consume alcohol, the holidays can be a time of too much (and maybe a little regret?). But, the truth is that in excess, it’s a downer that can drain you of energy, cause brain fog, affect your sleep and has a long list of not-so-great negative health affects.

When you’re out at gatherings and parties, there are some simple and even fun ways to cut way back, or cut it out all together. The rising popularity of low alcohol cocktails and fancy mocktails (zero-alcohol cocktails) is a great trend I hope is here to stay. 

You can find all kinds of recipes online, or just order yourself a simple one at the bar (the simplest being a bubbly water in a pretty glass with a squeeze of lime). I like to cut both wine and champaign by making spritzers with half wine and half sparkling water – it tastes good and not only cuts the alcohol, cuts calories too. I also love a low-alcohol Aperol Spritz, which is lovely to look at, hydrating, and festive (my recipe is 2 ounces sparkling wine or Prosecco, 1/2 ounce Aperol, and 4 ounces sparkling mineral water, garnished with an orange slice). 


4. Focus your energies and intentions on planning for the New Year ahead.

One of my favorite feelings is the excitement and possibility that comes with fresh starts, the New Year being one of the biggest. I love journaling, writing down goals and dreams, and creating action plans for creating the year. I keep a paper calendar and planner, and I love filling in all the things to look forward to. 

Another way to get an extra boost and really dive into leveling up your life is to find a program or community designed to support you in achieving your goals and becoming the happiest and very best version of you. This is a big reason why I created my new coaching membership and community, The Joy School. It’s been called “a gym membership for the soul” and I love that concept! It really is a very special, unique, and supportive community. I invite you to check out all the details here. 

Warren Buffet said, “Invest in yourself as much as you can. You are your own biggest asset by far.” 

It’s so true that the best investment we can make is in ourselves. When I really got this and started investing more in myself (and less in stuff I really didn’t need), it was life-changing for me. The Joy School is the dream program I wish I’d had years ago. One designed to give you the coaching support, tools, frameworks, and sense of community with growth-minded people that it really takes to purposefully design a life to love. It’s my honor to lead it, and so far the members and I have been having a blast! Join us here

A Few of My Favorite Things – A JOYful Holiday Gift Guide

It’s the holiday season, and such a great time of year to focus on connection, love, joy, and COZY!

I know how time consuming it can be to look for thoughtful (reasonably priced!) gifts for all the people who bring magic to your life, so I thought I’d share a few of my very favorite ideas to give you an inspired head start.

I’ve put together this year’s JOYful Holiday Gift Guide in my Amazon store featuring some of my favorite gift ideas and great finds specifically chosen to support fun, joy, comfort, or ease in some way. You’ll find beautiful and cozy throws, the most comfortable slippers (including mine!), gift books, my favorite light therapy lamp to bring sunshine to gloomy days, kitchen goodies, a couple of great picks for kids, and all kinds of unique and thoughtful gifts. Most are under $50 and many are even under $20!

Each pick is something I either own or have purchased as a gift. Some of them are my go-to gifts for occasions all year! Shop the JOYful Holiday Gift Guide here.

I hope this holiday season brings you and your loved ones some much needed peace, joy, and connection.

And, if you haven’t already, be sure to tune in to The Joy School Podcast for all kinds of ideas on how to create more joy, peace, and success as we get ready to move into the new year.

Have a magical season! xo





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How to Plan an Amazing Fall Season

Happy fall friends! I’ve loved the energy of new beginnings as long as I can remember. I find the start of each season to be a great time to look at and leave behind what’s no longer serving us (some things are just soooo last season!), and to create our intentions and goals for the months ahead.

On that note, I have a fantastic GIFT for you! I created a free inspirational Fall Goals & Intentions printable workbook to help you plan an amazing fall season, and you can DOWNLOAD IT INSTANTLY HERE – no email required. It’s my gift to you to celebrate the season!

Designing an amazing life takes regular planning, effort, growth, and reflection. It helps a great deal to have tools to help guide us toward the goals, clarity, and feelings we’d like to create. Taking time each season to clear space, write down goals and tasks, and feed our souls can make a huge difference in how we experience the months ahead.

The fall is a time to go within, reflect, savor, slow down a bit, and shed the things that are holding us back from being the best version of ourselves.

I hope you enjoy the workbook. I plan to work on mine over the next few days.

Sending you tons of love for the season ahead.

Cheers to a beautiful autumn!

With Joy,

3 Ways to Boost Energy Fast

Afternoon fatigue is something I used to struggle with often, and still do once in a while. We all know the feeling – when the day seems to drag on, and you catch yourself nearly dozing off at your desk (or wherever you are). I knew there had to be helpful ways to reduce this problem and even solve it.

In an effort to help myself beat this frustrating obstacle (I once literally fell asleep with a cup of coffee in my hand! Oops!), I dove in to research and try out a few science-backed solutions. Thankfully, I found a few surprisingly easy tips that really work to help me regain my energy and get back on track. Plus, they have the added bonus of lifting my mood too!

Since I know so many struggle with this same challenge, I wanted to share 3 of my favorite quick ways to boost energy and reclaim your day. These are super simple – elementary, actually – but they really work and are great habits to create. Each can be done anywhere and in under a minute if you need to (key when you’re having a busy day). Ready? Let’s dive in…


1. Power Up with Some Deep Breathing

Many times our energy levels fall low because without even realizing it, we’ve been depriving our brain and cells of vital nutrients and fresh oxygen they need to stay energized. We have a tendency to breathe shallow and even infrequently when we’re focused on projects. After a few hours of this, it can really zap our energy. A quick fix that really works is to get up, move around a bit and shake yourself out, and take 3 to 5 deep breaths, holding each for 5 seconds before exhaling.

This gets your blood flowing and helps to replenish what your body needs to function at higher levels. I do this every morning, mid-day, and any time I feel like I need a boost. Plus, deep breathing has the added benefit of helping to regain focus and reduce stress – win! I sometimes like to set an intention for the rest of the day after doing this, which helps me focus on my goals and raises my emotional energy too…a nice plus.


2. Stay Hydrated

Hydration is absolutely key to maintaining high energy levels throughout the day. Numerous studies have highlighted the importance of hydration in combating fatigue and increasing energy levels. One 2012 study published in the Journal of Nutrition found that even mild dehydration, equivalent to about 1.5% loss of body weight, can lead to decreased mood, increased perception of task difficulty, and reduced concentration, all of which contribute to feeling exhausted.

So, when you start to feel that rough, sucky level of tired kicking in, reach for a big glass of water. The benefits will show up pretty quickly. Throughout the day, aim for practicing good hydration habits, such as a glass of water when you first wake up, keeping a water bottle with you, and making water part of all breaks and meals.


3. Move It

This one is also obvious, but actually paying attention to it and doing it is another thing. Physical activity is a highly-effective way to boost your energy levels, banish brain fog, and increase your overall vitality. You don’t need to spend hours at the gym to benefit – even a short one or two minute burst of movement can do wonders for your energy, muscles, and circulation.

Take a couple of breaks a day to stretch, walk, or do a quick 2-minute workout or solo dance party to a great tune. Like deep breathing, physical movement increases blood flow and oxygenates your body. If you have a few extra minutes, try a short power walk or a few sets of bodyweight exercises. These mini-workouts can re-energize you and really improve your focus.

For an super boost, try combining all three of these tips above together into a short break in your afternoon. Stacked, they’re even more effective.

It’s also important to remember, like with all things that benefit our life, it’s really about taking action. These are positive habits to create, just like brushing your teeth or taking beneficial supplements. Speaking of…I take a superfoods supplement (1/2 the recommended dose) daily, along with a raw B-Complex. I can actually notice a difference in my energy when I forget to do this (especially the B-Complex, which for me has been amazing).  

Boosting your energy doesn’t have to be time-consuming or complicated. Remember, it’s all about taking small, effective steps to create big changes in your energy levels and overall vitality. I love the analogy Brendon Burchard shares about this, that a power plant doesn’t “have” energy, it GENERATES energy – and it’s up to us to do the same!


Here’s to more energetic, vibrant days ahead!

Much love,


3 Tips for Creating a More Joyful Life

Hi Amazing Friends! I’m happy to share that in the new issue of Aspire Magazine (one of my favorite inspirational publications!), I wrote a feature story, 3 Tips for Creating a More Joyful Life, to go with my cover!

Joy not only boosts happiness and makes life more fun, it’s actually a key foundation for so many things, including leadership, health, success, and overall enjoyment of life. 

In the current issue of Aspire, you can read about 3 of my favorite tips for creating more joy in today’s busy, information packed world. With all that life throws our way, it can be easy sometimes to lose track of the things that bring us joy. Can you relate?

Read my article and tips here, and while you’re there,  you can grab yourself a free subscription to Aspire, which has been inspiring women (and a few men!) to live their best lives since 2006. Big thanks to Aspire and its inspiring publisher, the fabulous Linda Joy (what a perfect name for what she does, right?). xo 


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