How to Be Happy,  Personal Development

Hit Your Inner Reset Button With the Three S’s

Recently, I gave a talk at the love. your. life. Weekend retreat in Los Angeles (what a fantastic weekend!), and I shared a simple happiness tool I call the three S’s that I like to use in the morning when I wake up, and any time I need to hit my inner reset button (which lately, I admit, has been quite often! lol).

I started doing the three S’s myself each day last year, and it made a huge difference.  It’s a major attitude check!  Those who know me know that I’m big on simplicity, and nothing gets me inspired more than super simple tools that produce great results.  The three S’s is definitely turning out to be one of those, because I’ve received amazing feedback from people who have told me they started incorporating this into their daily routine!  I’ve heard, “Life Changing!”  “OMG, it’s completely changed my attitude in the morning!” and “I can’t believe what a difference such an easy practice can make!”

Okay, so I feel I must share this on the blog so the three S’s can reach everyone it might be of service to.

Here we go!  The three S’s:

When you wake in the morning (I like to do this while I’m still in bed resting, paying attention to the sounds of the birds outside, etc.), or any time you’re stressed and feel like you need a mini-break to hit your inner reset button, close your eyes and do these three things – in order – and feel the shift!  It only takes a minute or two, but can change the course of your whole day.

SMILE ~ Studies have shown that the simple, physical act of cracking a smile for at least 17 seconds (I say 30+ is ideal) creates a chemical change in the brain that triggers feel-good feelings.  It even works if you’re faking the smile!  Try holding the smile through the next two S’s for maximum happy impact.

SAY THANKS ~ Take a minute to think about what you’re grateful for in this moment.  Picture some of these things in your mind’s eye if you can (favorite people, favorite foods, simple pleasures, your warm bed).  Feel the positive transformation that comes from shifting your mindset to a place of gratitude.  When you begin to feel a shift and feel ready, move on to the last S.

SET AN INTENTION ~ Now that you’ve created a positive shift in your heart and mind, set an intention.  It can be general, such as, “I intend to enjoy today and spend time with people who inspire me.”  It can be specific, like, “I intend to be a valuable contributor in today’s office meeting, and my ideas will be well received.”  One of my favorites is, “I intend to take excellent care of my mind and body today, and to inspire others to do the same.”

That’s it!  Open your eyes and go on about your day with better energy, a brighter outlook, and a clear intention.  Keep the three S’s in your happiness toolbox and bust them out any time you need them.  Even see if you can turn this idea into a new daily habit.  Small shifts create miracles!

Love & bliss,





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Kristi Ling is a happiness strategist, internationally known life and business coach, bestselling author, and inspirational speaker who works with individuals and organizations on building a firm foundation for lasting happiness and success. She has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Oprah Daily, Woman’s Day, Oxygen, Entrepreneur, Mashable, Reader’s Digest, and Women’s Health. Her popular TEDx Talk on The Power of Re-Thinking Happiness has been shared across social media, and she has appeared as a keynote speaker for major companies and events. Her bestselling book, Operation Happiness – The 3-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss was chosen by Success Magazine as one of the best books to make you successful. It’s available now wherever books and audiobooks are sold.


  • Ellen Menard

    “Shift” is a great mental visual and ethereal construct. I’ve had the hardest time dealing with losses, in the past 18 mos, especially. While, it is somewhat behind me, your “S” model, Kristi, is awesome and SImple. Also, Sustainable!
    Thanks with all my heart, which is truly Smiling. Ellen

  • Kristi Blicharski

    Thank you Ellen! You’re truly welcome! 🙂 I love this one too – so easy & effective! xo

  • Joy Pickering

    Better to fill mind with things of God than this confused world…definitely.. Good idea…