How to Be Happy,  Personal Development

When You Feel Like Something’s Missing – Here Are Some Answers

woman and natureDo you ever feel like something’s missing in an area of your life?  Relationships, business, passions… it’s something most of us experience at one time or another.

Long ago, I learned from A Course in Miracles that when you feel like something’s missing in any situation, the answer is what’s missing is what you’re not giving.  I’ve found this to be powerfully true in so many instances.  It’s an idea that’s changed the way I show up in many areas of my life for the better, and keeps me focused on always doing the best I can, asking, “What more can I offer?”

But, I’ve recently learned there’s something else that can help us shift that feeling that something’s missing — connection.  Deep, soulful connection – to other like-minded people, the Universe, nature, a higher power.  It’s something so many of us cruise through our days on autopilot without paying much attention to or consciously inviting into our lives.  But that’s the thing… it must be consciously created.

What happens when we go without this for too long is that our soul starts to feel there’s a gap – like a vitamin deficiency of the spirit.  Lack of deep connection in our lives can feel like driving a car with partially deflated tires.  The result can be that familiar, empty feeling that something’s missing.  It can cause us to feel a bit sad, stressed, hollow… even depressed… without really being able to pinpoint the cause.

It takes conscious effort to nurture that part of us that is in need of deeper connections.  It takes reaching out, deliberate effort, mindful communication, precious time out of our day… but when we create the habit of seeking and nurturing these connections, the empty feelings fade and those spaces are filled with powerful joy, peace, happiness and purpose.  If we shift to live this way regularly, we can reduce or eliminate that “something’s missing” feeling, and become more connected to Love, the Universe, to each other, and to community at the same time.

Deeper connection can mean different things to each of us, and the connections we need can sometimes change.  It’s all about going within and listening to what kinds of connections your own soul is craving.  Deep conversation with friends?  Prayer?  Meditation?  Brainstorming with people who share your passions?  Art?  Touch?

A few areas I’m looking to create deeper connection in my life are with nature (I’ve been working in my garden TONS and it really lights me up!), with friends (It’s so easy when you work from home to go weeks without seeing loved ones), and with the ocean.  The ocean, to me, is such a powerful place of magical connections and reminders of things far bigger than we can imagine.  I plan to spend much more time there.

So, I invite you to join me in seeking and creating deeper, more meaningful connections.  What’s your soul longing for?  Maybe it’s a more regular spiritual practice, or maybe it’s simply spending more sacred time with a beloved friend or pet.  Let me know in the comments section.  Whatever it is for you, always be seeking… always be making the time.  Connection – to Love, passion, and to higher energetic vibrations – is the master key to filling life’s empty spaces. 

Much Love & soulful connection,




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Kristi Ling is a happiness strategist, internationally known life and business coach, bestselling author, and inspirational speaker who works with individuals and organizations on building a firm foundation for lasting happiness and success. She has been featured in numerous media outlets such as Oprah Daily, Woman’s Day, Oxygen, Entrepreneur, Mashable, Reader’s Digest, and Women’s Health. Her popular TEDx Talk on The Power of Re-Thinking Happiness has been shared across social media, and she has appeared as a keynote speaker for major companies and events. Her bestselling book, Operation Happiness – The 3-Step Plan to Creating a Life of Lasting Joy, Abundant Energy, and Radical Bliss was chosen by Success Magazine as one of the best books to make you successful. It’s available now wherever books and audiobooks are sold.